5 Sex Tips for When Your Partner Is Dramatically Taller or Shorter Than You Are

If you and your boo are significantly different sizes—you know, like Shaq and ex-girlfriend Nicole “Hoopz” Alexander here—getting down in the bedroom can become somewhat of a chore and, life’s too short for that.

As someone who’s 5’1″ and has dated guys significantly taller than me—I’m talking 6’4″—I’m all too familiar with having my face stuck in someone’s armpit or spending 20 minutes in the shower trying to figure out a position that works best for both of us. Update: Shower sex has not worked.

But just because you scored a tall drink of water (or someone petite) doesn’t mean you can’t have as much great sex as other couples. So grab a pen and paper, and get ready to give these tips a try. You’re welcome in advance.

1. Be willing to experiment.

This goes for everyone but especially those with extreme height differences. Experimentation is key to finding out what works best for you and it will of course vary from person to person. For example, a 69-type position might be tough for shorties like me, but getting creative by using props like stairs or a wedge pillow might just do the trick.

2. Speaking of wedge pillows, buy one.

If you’ve never heard of it until now, again, you’re welcome. This bad boy is a damn dream and I don’t mean because you sleep on it. Although I suppose you could. Positions like doggy style can be difficult when someone’s hips are lower than their partner’s, so use this pillow to help give you a boost.

3. Maintain a sense of humor.

If you don’t think sex can be awkward AF sometimes, please show yourself so I can meet you and find out what planet you come from. Why? Because someone is bound to hit their head on something random or yell something they might immediately regret. The important thing to remember is to laugh it off; no need to let it ruin the mood. Unless, of course, they yell someone else’s name. In that case, kick ’em to the curb.

4. Spooning sex is your BFF.

Missionary is usually a go-to position for any couple, but spoon sex works for just about everyone. The best part? It’s perfect for when you’re feeling lazy and still feels amazing.

5. Keep in mind, there’s more to sex than just P in V.

Get creative—toys, mouths, edible underwear. Whatever gets you going. Just remember that everything must be consensual. Otherwise, go *ahem* nuts.